I will stop complaining

Daily Keys to Success

These daily excerpts from Randy Kay's book Daily Keys to Success will show you how to grow your potential while expanding your personal success to lead a life of significance. You will benefit from 365 topics with ideas, tools, and tactics for living life fully.

Complaining destroys happiness. It steals your energy and the drive needed to discover your success in life by robbing you of your highest potential. No one wins by complaining, period. So what is there to complain about? Your job, your relationship, the economy, the weather, your home, your neighbors. The possibilities are endless. The key is to get out of the gutter of complaining that drains your energy, and to spring into the possibilities a positive change in attitude can bring. When we complain, our attention is focused on the negatives. But nothing changes by complaining, so what good is it?

If your situation leaves you feeling stuck, the immediate solution is to focus on the positives of your life. Reality is pretty much how we define it. The glass can be viewed as empty, or it can be viewed as a receptacle waiting for your favorite drink. Ask yourself why you are complaining. Maybe you are telling yourself that you’re not good enough, or perhaps you are protecting yourself from disappointment. If things go wrong, that would make you right. Maybe complaining is a front for not taking a risk, going for our dream. Perhaps it’s a way of seeking attention or sympathy from others. It could be an excuse for not correcting something within yourself by using other’s faults to excuse you from changing.

Once you identify the reason(s) for your complaining, start disciplining yourself to stop the complaint before verbalizing it. Think about the positives and see compassion for others’ failings. Focus on the things for which to be grateful. Assess your current situation by defining your reality and taking action to make it better—making lemonade out of lemons. Let go of what’s out of your control and decide to thrive within your environment. When you stop complaining, all of that wasted energy can be routed to more productive outcomes. You release the power to tap into your full potential. The opposites of complaining are applauding and approving, which leads to contentment and happiness. That, and a fresh start.

“Complaining not only ruins everybody else’s day, it ruins the complainer’s day, too. The more we complain, the more unhappy we get.” ~ Dennis Prager